Have you heard the quote, “they tell you to be yourself then they judge you”? It is unfortunate that we live in a world full of cruel and judgmental people. This is common ESPECIALLY in the cyber world. From YouTube to blogging, and even social networks, there are those few people who just pick on everything you say, do, or wear. The modern day term used to describe these individuals would best be know as haters. Haters can make the cyber world a scary and intimidating place to be. So we are here to give some tips on how to deal with the haters. Specifically pertaining to when you decide to start a blog of your very own, if you haven’t already!
First thing you need to know is that once a YouTube channel, blog, and any social network is made, someone will feel the need to voice their opinions, in sometimes a very rude way. It’s troubling but people are mean.
Focus on the Positive
A tough skin is eventually developed; teaching us to ignore the ignorance and take in only the positive. That is where your focus should be kept. It is important to remember that if you are doing what you love, the harsh words that others say should not stop you from continuing on your own little pursuit of happiness. Unfortunately there’s no apps out there that help with bloggers and haters. But there are apps that offer inspirational messages and quotes to get you through the day and help you focus. Just be true to yourself. You can never influence the world by trying to be like it.
Here’s some vital information for you: it is possible to avoid the anxiety that hate brings simply by making it almost impossible to receive it. It may not be the best idea to disable the comment section on your blog. You want your readers to be able to communicate with you still. However there is the option to review your comments before making them visible to the public. That way you control what is put on your blog, and never let the haters see the light of day! If you do decide to let your readers respond to your content, without any filters, here are some things to keep in mind:
Know the appropriate time to respond
It is best to acknowledge only the kind words people offer. Haters are looking for a reaction to their negative slander. Remember to focus on the positive.
Know the difference between constructive criticism and helpful suggestion, opposed to actual hate
Constructive criticism and genuine suggestions usually are comments that offer advice on how to improve or get better at what you are doing. They should in no way belittle you or make you feel insignificant.
Hateful comments would obviously be full of negativity and hold no useful information that pertains to your post or blog in general. Their only intent is to bring you down.
And lastly, you will get burned if you play with fire
It is predictable that if you choose to blog about touchy topics (abortion, religion, politics etc.) you will receive feedback from all different aspects; some of which can be really harsh.
If you as the writer are doing the ‘hating’ on someone or something, expect it right back. It is the circle of the blogging world, and even more, life.
Ultimately just be you. In the end you are all you have. Your thoughts, your words, your opinions. Things that no one should be able to take away from you. Hopefully some of these tips helped you shed that timid skin you had about starting your own blog!
Do you have any suggestions of your own on how to conquer hate on your blog? Please feel free to leave a comment below! Or tweet us at @ifabbo.